Reminders.

Mom,

I finally went though most of the stuff in your room. It was not as hard as I thought it would be, and then harder then I thought as well. I'm sure that you understand. I felt like I had an elephant sitting on my chest while I was doing it, but then I also had a feeling of moving forward. This doesn't mean that I don't think about you every day. I think it just means that now I am making progress in incorporating you in my life without so much pain.

You have some beautiful jewelry that I don't remember ever seeing you wear. I even found the diamond earrings that J1 gave you for Mother's Day one year, and they still had the original tags on them. I have decided to wear them myself, and when H gets old enough I will give them to her so she can have a piece of you. I hope it will become a family tradition for us. I figure that you must have been thinking that you would save all your nice jewelry for when you went out but since you were so sick for so long those opportunities didn't present themselves very often.

Speaking of often, I have compiled your absolute favorite clothes, including all of your really comfy stuff, and I'm going to make a quilt for the me and the kids to use. I want them to know you even though you aren't physically here anymore. That and it will comfort me to have your favorite things to keep me warm. I know you're laughing a little right now because I don't know how to quilt yet, but I'm going to learn. I've had kids, I learned how to put in an electrical socket, surely I can handle a quilt! :o) I know that's what you would say.

I'm going to finally graduate with my Associates of Science in May. I'm going to walk this time, not like high school where I skipped it out of spite, and I'm proud of myself. I know that you are too. I start on my Bachelor's in the fall. I was going to try to go to UC Denver but the housing market is so soft that I think we'll be staying put for a while. This means that I will probably go to TSU. A fine school to be sure and I am still excited about going there, like I was when we talked about it years ago! I was just hoping in a small part of me to go to Denver to be close to your side of the family.

I absolutely adore your family mom! I think they like me too! ;o) Oh, Auntie M just called I'll write more later.

Love you.

Tired.

I still don't get enough sleep mom. The kids are fine for a while and then something will upset them so they hop back into the big bed with us. Only you know that a queen sized mattress and 4 people doesn't work. You would have laughed the other night though. J2 had a bad dream so he got up, which woke H up, so they came to bed with me. J hadn't come to bed yet since he was out so once he got home he just decided that it would be easier to sleep in the kid's full size bed by himself. About midnight or so I got pushed to the way far edge of the bed by my lovely thrashing children! lol! I gave up at that point and retreated downstairs to sleep!

School is going well enough; the semester just started so it's not too hot and heavy yet. I should graduate this summer with my AS. I wish you could be there in person to see me walk to stage. I know you were disappointed when I didn't walk for my high school graduation. I know that you will see me though. I have to know.

I stopped by the cemetery the other day to leave you the state quarter that came out this year for Colorado. We had a great trip out there, and the family has taken us in with open arms. It's like coming home for me because I always felt like a black sheep with dad's family. I love them, and they love me well enough, don't get me wrong, but I'm different from all of them. I always have been. I fit in just fine with your family though. Just fine.

I'm down 40 odd pounds from June of 07. I'm working on the last 35 now. I'm hoping to have them gone by sometime in March, but if it ends up being May or June I'll be okay with that too. I am watching my diet and trying exercise, the only real way to lose weight, I know. I'm scared since it looks like the gene for the cancer is in the family. That's part of my motivation. I want to do everything that I can to prevent my kids losing me because I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

I think it's never the time to lose your mother, but a part of me gets mad when I think about how I was only 28 when I lost you. I have so long to live with no way to get advice, or funny stories about what I did as a kid, to compare and use with my own children. My grief counselor recommended a book to me about being a motherless daughter. I'm going to get it and see if it helps. Of course, the list of books that I have to read and want to read are both so long right now that I could read for the next year straight and barely dent it! But you know how it is to be a book lover. Shoot, you're part of where I get my love of books.

I really do need to go to bed now mom. I love you. We'll walk again soon.